Consent means agreeing to do sexual activities with someone. Being sexual with someone without their consent is sexual assault.¹

Enthusiastic consent can look like this.

• Getting your partner’s permission before changing the type or degree of sexual activity. A “yes” to one type of sex is not a “yes” for all kinds. 
• Making your consent constant and vocal.
• Consent is a two-way street. Let your partner know that YOU can stop anytime too, and ask them if they want you to keep going. Giving someone permission will increase intimacy and trust.
• Consent can be fun. Ask your partner what they like and tell them what you like. 
• If you’re doing sexy stuff that prevents you from verbally speaking up (such as blowjobs, etc.), make sure that you and your partner agree on other options for opting out, such as shaking the head, smacking the pillow, or holding your hand up to stop.

Consent doesn’t look like this.

• Not taking “no” for an answer.
• Pushing on when the other person is upset, disengaged, or nonresponsive.
• Thinking that wearing revealing clothes, flirting, or kissing is an invitation for something else.
• Pressuring someone into sex by intimidating them or making them afraid.
• Thinking you have permission to engage in sexual activities because you’ve been given permission in the past.
• Having sex with someone who is under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
• Someone being under the legal age for consent, it’s different in various states. Check this link if you’re curious about your state. 
• Someone using their position of power to pressure you into sex (i.e., teachers, coaches, elders, bosses).